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The Next Stage of the Empty Nest

August 29, 2022 By Janetti Spaghetti

You might think that the umbilical cord is cut when your baby is born, but you’d be wrong.

kids in 1997
From this …

In most cases I don’t think it’s ever cut; it just stretches.

my kids at wedding
… to this!

Despite being the younger child, Miss 25 spread her wings and flew the nest at the tender age of 18 – long before I was ready for it!

Mr 28 stayed with us a few more years while he finished his university studies, but he too found his own place and moved out about three years ago.

next stage of the empty nest with son

I couldn’t understand when other middle aged mamas struggled with feelings of sadness when their nests emptied; our transition was quite smooth and really didn’t leave me feeling down. In fact I was proud that we had raised two great young adults!

It probably helped that we still saw both kidults at least once a week. Mr 28 would come home to do his washing every weekend; while I would often go shopping and do other girly things with our daughter, or she would just come over to hang out.

next stage of the empty nest

But now the umbilical cord is being stretched even further …

Mr 28 is getting married in December and as is only natural, he is spending more and more time with his lovely fiance (and her family!), and less time with us.

fur babies are great when you're a the next stage of the empty nest

We still keep in touch, but it was really brought home to me how things had changed when I learned that he’d had Covid recently – AFTER the event! How did I not know?! (Turns out the husbear had known but had neglected to pass on the news to me!)

It made me realise that we are becoming less important in the lives of our kidults.

And now – Miss 25 and her husband are feeling hemmed in living in suburbia. They’re wanting to move further out of the city and looking at acreage, which makes me feel sad. I’ve been spoiled, having her living not too far away this past couple of years.

bride and mum
Photo by Hudson and Natasha

I know they still love me – but the old umbilical cord is getting very stretched!

Just as well the husbear and I have a beach shack to escape to 😉 .

And really, I’m fortunate that they still live in the same city!

I’m reminding myself that it’s just a stage, and I have a feeling things will change once again in due course – when the grandchildren start to arrive!

It’s the ongoing circle of life …

How often do you see your kidults? Do you wish they lived closer?!

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Comments

  1. Kaycee Bay says

    September 16, 2022 at 8:40 pm

    Gave my littles an extra squeeze tonight ?

Janet Camilleri Welcome to the world of Janetti Spaghetti! Perhaps we've already met - after all, I've been blogging for over ten years now. You may remember me from such blogs as Middle Aged Mama, Redland City Living or Footprints. I must be the master (mistress) of re-invention because here I am again! Here at Janetti Spaghetti, I'm blogging purely for the love of it - and I hope you enjoy reading, as much as I enjoy the writing. So grab a cuppa, get comfy, and come join me on the journey. Who knows where we will end up?!

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